Thursday, February 9, 2012

Age Difference

One of the things I've struggled with most is the ever-growing age gap between Piper and her future (hopefully) sibling. I know in the grand scheme of things this probably seems silly to worry about, but I always had a very clear idea of the family I wanted. My "plan" was 2 1/2 - 3 1/2 years between each child and I wanted 3 - 4 children. At this point, there will be a minimum 5 year age difference, and that's if  I get and stay pregnant fairly soon. As far as the 3 -4 children, that is still to be determined. A lot really depends on what it takes to get and stay pregnant.

Lately, I've been trying to look at the positives of a larger age gap. It's not like I can change what is anyway. So, here's my list... Feel free to add any pros I may have forgotten.

1. Piper will be a big helper.

2. Piper can entertain herself and doesn't require as much of my time and attention as she used to.

3. Only one in diapers.

4. When Piper starts school, I'll have more one on one time with #2.

5. A new baby will be a blessing ANY time.

I guess I just worry that Piper and her future sibling(s) won't be as close if they're farther apart in age. I'm trying really hard to let go of my dreams and accept what God has in store for me. I'm sure it's much better anyway.

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3 comments:

  1. I think the larger age gap will be awesome. I love your list of Pro's! Piper is such a sweetheart and I know she will be a wonderful helper. Sometimes life doesn't happen as we had planned but how awesome is it to know that our Almighty God has something better in store for us? His plans can become our dreams.

    You are an amazing Mommy! I'm blessed to call you my friend! I love you!

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  2. I have also struggled knowing if we get pregnant now ( and keep the baby), maddy will be almost 5 years older. My sister and i were 17 months apart growing up, and I wanted that for Maddy too. But I love your list of pros. Helps me put a positive spin on it. (i have one to add... Bc our kids have had to wait for their siblings, maybe they will appreciate their sister/brother more.)

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    1. Sorry I've taken so long to reply to your comments. We've been having internet issues lately.

      I love your addition. I hope the fact that Piper has asked and prayed for a sibling will make her appreciate him/her more. I worry about jealousy being an issue because she's been an only child for so long. (Assuming we ever actually get #2.)

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